Tiger, Tiger, Tiger. What the hell. Maybe you have great focus, but you still don’t think. Because if you’d thought about it clearly, you wouldn’t have done it. You’re just another guy after all.
Now they say you are a sex addict because the numbers of girls are up to 9 or 10 as of this writing. Like my friend just wrote to me, "Can't anybody just be an ass anymore?"
Do you get now the far-reaching effect your “transgressions” have?
Did you tell yourself that as long as your wife doesn’t find out, it’s all good?
Did you think that the girls you fooled around with were so taken in by your celebrity that they would keep their mouths shut? Did you think they were all starry-eyed and had no agenda of their own but to be there for you when it was convenient for you?
Did you actually think it would never come out? Because, my little brother-in-law, the truth always comes out. You sure were stupid to think it wouldn’t.
Oh yeah, I've already established you didn't think.
And you have children you didn’t think about as well. You might not think now that this will affect them because they are so young. But it’s affecting them already. And it will into the future. When they get to school, they are going to hear things from other kids who heard their parents talking. You have no idea, really, what you've done.
Don’t think you didn’t have a chance at bringing home an STD. You are lying to your wife and your girlfriends; you can be sure your girlfriends are lying to you about their exploits.
Your right to privacy is virtually nonexistent by your actions alone. It has nothing to do with anybody else, not the media, just you. The media has helped make you as rich and popular as you are; did you actually think any action of yours is not news?
Your reputation was one of the best of any celebrity’s. You seemed to be respectful, dignified and always seemed to know what to say in any situation. Did you think there weren’t hordes of people ready to see you fall?
You may feel mired right now in the physical and emotional aftermath of your wife, your mother and other family and friends finding out you are a lying, cheating bastard. You have no idea even yet the effect your stupidity will have.
You have ruined the kind of marriage only a first marriage of two people in love can be. Your marriage has lost the “we are so special; infidelity will never touch us; we will have that happy ending” feeling. Your wife had it. Now she doesn't. The bubble has burst. The trust, man, the trust. So much more important than any other part of marriage.
If you want to keep your marriage now and your wife consents to attempt to stay married to you, there’s a lot of work that you MUST do. You must be willing to spend the rest of your life proving yourself to her. I’m not saying it’s going to take the rest of your life, but you must be willing. You must be willing to be completely transparent from now on. It’s not hard to do. It really isn’t. Lies take on a life of their own, completely out of your famous control.
You must answer your wife’s questions honestly and fully. Really. She’s going to ask a lot of questions at first. She’s going to want to hear the hurtful things you’ve done. She’s going to want the ever-loving truth, man. The full truth. Because no less than the full truth will keep your family together. And she will know. Her senses are acute now, hyper really, and the blinders are off. She knows now many things you think she doesn’t, because there were bells ringing in her head the whole time you were cheating, but she chose to trust you. Now all those bells are like little metal tabs in a slot machine, falling into place, making sense out of every ding. She knows a lot.
Every little thing you did, every text message, every phone call, every card, gift, everything you’ve ever said to her, whispered to her, written to or done for her is suspect. You have made her entire life a sham, a lie. Her entire life with you.
Transparency, man, full disclosure. She deserves no less.
And get yourself a real name.
